ABOUT
After a series of failed relationships, I finally met the love of my life, who would later become my wife. I had the courage to share with her my challenges. She patiently encouraged me to get help before we got married, and I started therapy for my porn addiction. I participated in a 12-step program which changed my life.
But for years, I struggled with guilt, shame and self-esteem issues. For years, it was like I had the mind of a child in an adult body. My addiction impacted my work, it made me late for important appointments, it made me reactive and not able to handle conflict or stress...but despite doing all the "Christian things", I just couldn't break my habit.
I can remember telling my therapist years ago that I always thought God would cure me of this and one day I would wake up and never struggle in the area again. My therapist asked me, “Did you ever think that God might want you to do something about it?” It never occurred to me that perhaps I was called to be an active participant in my own healing.
Now I'm on a mission to help Christian men heal from their addiction so they no longer need to feel the shame and pain that comes with this addiction.
I'm Steve O'Connor and after a 15-year addiction to pornography, I finally got help.
WHY WE ARE NAMED
STRONGHOLD FREEDOM
“Stronghold” isn’t just catchy—it’s deeply theological and hope-filled. It tells a story: We all build strongholds; some imprison us, But God invites us into His Stronghold—where truth replaces lies, love replaces shame, and healing replaces hiding.
In spiritual terms, strongholds can be both Positive, a place of protection and refuge in God. And a Negative, a place of bondage or deception held by the enemy. But God is our Refuge and Fortress!
"The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold." - Psalm 18:2
God as our Stronghold. He is our safe place in times of distress, he is our reliable shelter from spiritual attack, emotional pain, and temptation. And Christ is where we find our place of identity restoration, protection, and strength. In recovery, stronghold freedom is exactly what we need—a secure place in God to rebuild, find healing, and resist the lies of shame or addiction.
WHY HELP CHRISTIAN MEN?
I have a passion for helping Christian men, who struggle with sex addiction and feel the shame of it all. I combine recovery principles with faith to help you break free from your porn addiction. Often times, when you are a faithful Christian, married life can feel like it is meant to be idyllic. It can almost be idolized as the epitome of life. When reality sets in and married life doesn't seem to solve all problems (including addiction), it can be a very challenging reality to navigate.
I want to help create strong, faith filled marriages from the beginning, and journey with men as they continue to grow and their families grow too.
